Regardless of your personality, we are all cowards when it comes to first dates. We worry ourselves about even the little things, and we want things to work out and hopefully get a shot for another one. By worrying too much, we end up doing things that turns-off the whole game and losing the shot. Sometimes, these mistakes are too natural to notice that you’ll wonder why it never worked for you with anybody else. You need to have an idea on what are the things that might turn down the dating process.
Here are 5 tips to get you enlightened.
You wanted to get to know your date so you asked questions and everything that come to mind. When his answer is new to you or he said something that tickles your curiosity, you feel the urge to ask – turning the conversation into an instant interrogation. Where is the fun there? Stop asking too many questions and enjoy the moment, that’s how dating works – getting to know each other slowly and surely.
Do not creep out your date by making him feel like you already know him. When he tries to say something about himself, quit it with the “I knew it” script. Avoid giving him the idea that you are his stalker that creep him even in the middle of the night. You are deleting the crucial part of first dates – discovering things slowly. Quit with the guessing game. Let your date tell you who he is by his words, mannerism, or reactions. That’ll sound better than butting in the thing you think you know about him.
Don’t Be Too You
Be at your best without losing yourself; that’s the better way to do it. There are some who want to bring their individuality even on their first dates, looking all floppy and untamed. It is good that your future partner would embrace the real you, but not on first dates. You could comfortably talk to them, or act at ease wearing you favorite casuals but not on pajamas. Stay away from things you think is inappropriate. If you want this date to work out, sacrifice just a little by holding back.
Too Fast Forward
Marriage? Babies? A House and Car? – WHAT?! It would be very shocking for someone to be laid by future plans of someone they just met. You might give them a hint of how you’d be a good partner in the future but to drastically drag all your plans and say as if he’s obligated to do it for you, then bid it goodbye because there would never be a next date. Keep the flow at the present, creating moments to share in the future if things will turn out well.
Leave Those Garbage Behind
Let “X” be a thing of the past not a subject of the present. Never drag anything relating to your past heartbreak into the conversation. Don’t make your date a counselor whom you want to ask guidance for. You are there to meet someone who is hopefully better than that troll who broke your heart. Don’t make dating a rebound – it might bounce back to you.